How Reading Ayodeji Awosika’s Book “Real Help” Sent me to the Psych Ward

He told me to stop reading all self-help books and make his work, it didn’t work at all

I have read many self-help books since 2014. They all had a certain tone to them, and a nice course of action to follow shortly after. They always were kind, sweet-toned, and straight to the point. I went on a google search looking for “The best self-help book” and one of the top results was that of Medium author Ayodeji Awosika blog post. He went through and listed some good books to read. His last suggestion said, “Not to toot my own horn, but I genuinely believe this is one of the most comprehensive, useful, and straightforward self-help books you’ll ever read in your entire life.” So what did I do? I bought his self-help book and read it from front to back. That’s when my life took a turn for the worst.

“Real Help” is not your average self-help book

The initial tone of the book in the opening chapters I felt not only attacked but that I was put in a world that wouldn’t allow me to succeed what-so-ever. His tales of success all throughout the book were so close to climax then all of a sudden, the topic changed, and you’re left stranded.

His vision of being successful was to create revenues of passive income, and not have to worry about anything. That mindset really stubbed his writing style. Instead of going the extra mile to sugar coat anything, he abruptly ended amazing points with pessimistic views. That all and all hit me hard. His call to arms through the whole book was to start a writing career, do drop shipping, and other crazy ideas to create “assets” that generate passive income. He was so much against the general idea of actual work, that he would continuously bash anyone working to make ends meet.

He is an ex-drug addict and I almost went that extra mile to end my life due to OD

Ayo’s vision of the world really struck a nerve. He admitted his previous drug use and how much he hated life. All up until he gained a huge following due to continuous writing and now generates a ton of income. He talked about a failed marriage that he probably created due to drug use and a negative mindset. The way he absorbed his self-help knowledge into his cancerous sponge of a soul and rang it out ever so slowly throughout his book, gave me this false sense of cancerous hope. I too thought I could jump on Medium and make a killing. That was until I wrote to my heart’s content and saw a couple of cents enter my bank account for two months. That’s when I felt like a total failure, unheard, unread, and heartless. I laid it all out there for everyone to see, but no one wanted to see it. Sure I got published in a publishers series a couple of times, but I felt that was just a ploy to get more followers for that publisher.

So shortly after taking Ayodeji’s advice to stop getting high on self-help books, and put his book into action, is when I found myself going into a downward spiral of depression, and no sign of hope in sight. I then started popping way more pills, gambled harder than ever, and lost it all. I feel Ayo may be the reaper in disguise with some of his advice given in his book “Real Help”. I feel Ayo is the cause why I tried to overdose on my prescription medication and admitted to my 4th psych ward visit in 11 years. I went 10 years without a visit, but after reading this book, suicide seemed like a valuable alternative to living. Not only is Covid bad, but trying to put Ayodeji Awosika’s book into an actual reality, is a far fetched dream that will never come true.

He mentions finding your talents and capitalizing on them

He specifically mentions a quiz called “StrengthsFinder 2.0” to find your talents and to use them to capitalize on life. I then paid $54 for the quiz and here were my top five talents.

1. Achiever
2. Responsibility
3. Woo
4. Futuristic
5. Faith

Seeing those as my strengths, I only saw one vision of life. I would then have to be a dedicated, reliable, retail worker, who had hopes for a good future due to my faith. I achieve so much, but seeing these as my top 5 strengths out of 34 possibilities, I saw a dismal future for myself. His advice to find my strengths totally backfired and now I am a distraught father with no sign of capitalization in my future.

My only hope is that this reaches the right readers, and keeps you from entering Ayo’s dojo of a book that is so far fetched, it’ll make you feel that reading self-help is a thing that gets you high, and won’t help you. I haven’t bought a new self-help book yet, but am open to the future for it. His book was a disaster in my mind and gave me bad habits. His advice was super subpar and was only heightened at the mention of other self-help books within it. That’s when he cited such books, and then let you down with pessimism shortly after.

Ayodeji is a crook and doesn’t deserve acclamation

He should probably stop writing if he wants to do something with his life. Instead of pushing content, maybe he should live the life he reaped, and try to be a true father figure. Maybe he should stop pretending to be this amazing person, and be the person he truly is. His sloth like lifestyle and content pushing is flooding the internet with cancerous content that could potentially ruin people’s minds if taken literally. Please tread with caution when taking any of his advice. It could very well be the last bit of “advice” that pushes you to your grave.

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